Sunday, May 23, 2010

3 Stages of Grief Work

Everyone goes through some type of loss. This must be grieved if we are to heal from it.


Grief is an inevitable part of life. For some, it's a relatively quick journey lasting a few months; for others, a journey that may take years to complete. Working through the grief stages is frequently referred to as "grief work."


  • facing the reality of loss



  • working through painful memories



  • experiencing the full range of emotions associated with loss



  • coping with the situational and lifestyle changes resulting from the loss



  • adapting to the loss, and reconfiguring their own life

  • The Stages of Grief

    Stage 1: "Acclimation and Adjustment"

    Stage 2: "Emotional Immersion and Deconstruction"

    Stage 3: "Reclamation and Reconciliation"

    Talking about "recovering" from grief is almost disrespectful, as life is never restored to the way it was before the loss of someone close.
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    Saturday, May 22, 2010

    8 Steps to Becoming the YOU of your Dreams

    Spirituality and Health is one of my web favorites. Here are 8 steps to help you become a better you via the tools and practices on the www.spiritualityhealth.com site.

    Read more at http://www.spiritualityhealth.com


    Step 1: Find Out Where We’re Coming From…
    Read the brief History of Spirituality & Health (Always find out at least a little about any teachers). >Click to Read

    Step 2: Be Inspired to “Be the Change!”
    Read or listen to the article by S&H editor Stephen Kiesling. >Click to Read

    Step 3: Take the Self-Reflection Survey
    This reflection is an important step toward finding your own best practices. >Take the Survey

    Step 4: Ask Your Family, Friends, Groups, and
    Colleagues to Reflect on You.
    This is a tough step, but you will gain perspective on yourself - and deepen your relationships.

    Step 5: Learn How Practices Create Who You Are
    Read the article from cutting-edge neuroscientist
    Peggy La Cerra, Ph. D >Click to Read

    Step 6: Practice Your Special Practices
    Each of the 16 practices (joy, compassion) have details behind them from both Peggy La Cerra and Rabbi Shapiro, as well as additional articles, videos, and of course a growing list of specific ways to practice.

    Step 7: Post Your Practices and Your Progress
    Be Bold. Share your special practice! Share your experiences! Your Progress! By improving ourselves to become the change we want to see in the world, we inspire others to join with us. >Write Us

    Step 8: Join Us!
    Help support this ongoing spiritual adventure. Subscribe today! >Start with Gratitude
    Read more at www.spiritualityhealth.com

    Thursday, May 20, 2010

    Do you doodle?

    I am one of those not-so-rare types that like to doodle. It has nothing to do with attention deficit, drawing skills or boredom. OK, sometimes it has to do with those things for me but as you can read below, it may have a greater reason too... Do you doodle? Leave us a comment, link or tweet.

    What do you think when you see someone doodling during a class lecture or a department meeting? Are they paying attention or mindlessly daydreaming? Do you ever wonder if doodling helps them in their learning process? You may be surprised.

    Here's the old thinking and new wisdom Wenner shares about doodling:

    Old Thinking: "Scribbling circles on a notepad while your company's chief inspiration officer drones on about synergy means you have trouble focusing."

    New Wisdom: "Doodling can boost your mind's ability to notice and remember mundane information by nearly 30 percent, according to research from the University of Plymouth. The theory is that the act of drawing makes use of visuospacial processes in the brain that might otherwise be used for daydreaming, thereby preventing your mind from wandering."

    Umbrella Doodle
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    Wednesday, May 12, 2010

    The Power of Neutral

    Practicing The Power of Neutral helps bring your mind, emotions and physiology to a state of neutral. Think of neutral as a “time-out zone” where you can step back, neutralize your emotions and see more options with objective clarity.
    Take a time-out. Breathe slow and deeply. Imagine the air entering and leaving through your heart area in the center of your chest.
    Try to disengage from your stressful thoughts and feelings as you continue breathing.
    Continue until you have chilled out and neutralized the emotional charge.
    One of the things that can help you get to neutral is asking yourself, “Do I really want to keep draining energy and stressing about the situation or how bad I feel?” For example, right before a situation that normally makes you anxious or stressed, you may start negatively projecting the idea you will blow it or be judged by others. This is the perfect time to use The Power of Neutral.
     
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    Monday, May 10, 2010

    Are you concerned that someone is addicted?

    Are you concerned that someone you know has a problem with addiction to a substance or behavior? How do you know for sure? Here are seven sign and symptoms that will help you decide if this is true. Tell us how you have dealt with this problem by leaving a comment below.

    When you discover that a friend or family member has a problem with drugs or alcohol, it often comes as a huge surprise to you. But secrecy is the drug on which addiction thrives, so it's not really that odd that you were in the dark. Addiction grows worse over a sustained period of time, and there are some indicators that may give you an idea something is wrong with your loved one before the bottom falls out. Here are seven signs you should look for if you suspect someone you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol.

    7: Change in Behavior

    7 Signs and Symptoms of Addiction

    6: Change in Friends

    5: Occupational Issues

    4: Legal Issues

    3: Family Strain

    2: Physical Changes

    1: Personality Changes

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    Saturday, May 1, 2010

    How do you define beauty?

    The best line in this article is "people tell me that I have captured the persons inner beauty. This is not about inner beauty, this person is beautiful!' Watch and read on...

    How do you define beauty?

    Positive ExposureMost of us feel that we aren't photogenic. But what if you have a genetic condition or physical trait that really makes a difference in how you feel about yourself and how others perceive you? Maybe it sounds counterintuitive, but photography actually can be the cure for a broken self-image.

    We humans have a common response to other people who look different. We turn our gaze away from individuals whose physical appearances make us feel uncomfortable; just think of your reaction when you see those ubiquitous television ads asking for donations for children with cleft palates. Or some of us may even stare, mesmerized by what we have been conditioned to view as physical deformity, defect, or disability. But what if a photograph could change those reactions
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